Shorty gettin on your nerves? 
Speaking of which, haven’t seen her online in a while. How’s she doing?
Random Talk | Say whatever's on your mind
RpgN
#968
Although you already said this is how you feel about control in general, I’d like to add my own thoughts on the matter as well.
It doesn’t have to mean that it’s either I wouldn’t trust my partner or the friend, thinking they’re going to sleep with each other. I think of it more, why are you putting yourself in such a situation? If he is on a wedding party with a girl, then it should be me, not a friend. The same goes for the other side. These are the kind of situations that I think are reserved for couples only. I’d get jealous that it’s not us going and I would also feel super awkward if I went alone with a guy friend to a wedding party.
This is a specific example where it’s a bit of an issue to me. It doesn’t mean that I would control my partner for it, but I would certainly let the partner know about my feelings. It also won’t stop me from feeling jealous.
Does that make me controlling to feel this way? Personally I think it’s romantic when you feel like you belong to each other and that you own each other but not at the cost of hurting and controlling each other. When you start telling the other who you’re allowed to talk to and what you’re allowed to do, then I will say the same as you. Especially after experiencing it myself. I don’t feel it’s fair to paint this picture on every type of jealousy.
toku
#969
I think it’s weird letting your s/o go to a wedding with someone else but even weirder is being afraid of attending a wedding alone.
MidnightTrain
#970
Hm, that’s tough. Because on one hand, you would be totally in the right to say to your SO “Hey, this makes me uncomfortable you being this person’s date, I don’t want you to go”, but at the same time you’re justifying those feelings based on character flaws. I.E. jealousy, insecurity, etc, and that’s not a valid reason to hold someone back in that way. It’s not that it’s wrong to feel that way, or to have these flaws, everyone has their share. But when you recognize that the only reason you’re stopping them from having an enjoyable night with their friend is because you have these negative emotions, then it would be much healthier for both people if you were able to recognize that, realize the affect it has on you and your partner, and overcome it. If you can’t discard those feelings as least bear with them so you’re not holding your partner back.
But the concept of having ownership over any human being is pretty terrible, imo. That’s the exact opposite of romance, even if the feeling goes both ways.
John
#972
I’ve been using Pocket for a while. It’s the first time i use any “read later” software, it’s actually pretty cool.
I guess web 2.0 does have its benefits.
MidnightTrain
#978
Hey, man. If you wanna live in the dark that’s your business.
I stand for the light.
Leo
#979
Reading a John post on GAF is always so cryptic. I feel like he’s forwarding a secret message.
John
#980
That’s something i’ve picked up from contemporary national comedians. Dry, embarrassing, and purposefully hard to understand. Like a dry sock.
Leo
#982
You know, in DBZ terms, Jeb Bush would be the Cooler of the family. George W is Frieza. George Sr. is King Cold. My point being, uh, they are arrogant assholes.